I Don’t Care What They Say, Writing Isn’t Lonely – Day 279

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Writers, for the most part, write in closed off spaces. Even those of us writers who like to work in a busy place like a café, there is a Fortress of Solitude that rises up around us. It’s not a conscious thing. We can even look up and smile at someone as they pass by on their way to the other window seat. But we’re not really there, are we? We’re deciding whether to use the word “excellent” or “superb”. The lights are on, but everyone’s in the attic…

Here’s something I realized though recently: writing is not a “lonely” business as many people want to describe it. I agree it’s certainly not a social business (unless you have a writing partner…), but most of us prefer to go to our own little worlds when we work. That’s a far cry from lonely.

That being said, it is good to connect with other writers. Last week I had the great fortune to do just that. I first “met” Evadne Macedo (in the cyber sense) when she left a comment on Terry Fallis’ blog. I followed her link back to her blog, and found that like me, she was a budding novelist. (Unlike me though, she had actually finished a novel and was shopping it around while working on another…)

In any case, turns out she was in Thunder Bay on business, and emailed to see if I was available for coffee for an hour before her flight back. Very cool! Yes, I was, and we went for a quick bite and chat about Life, the Universe, and Everything Writing.

It was great to be able talk with someone who is in a similar boat. We talked writing theory and thoughts on self-publishing among other things. We swapped links and war stories and the challenges of juggling day job with burning the midnight novel oil.

I think at the very core though, meeting another fellow writer inspired me. (And I say “another” on purpose — I do have other writer friends, though not many.) No matter how much better it is to work on your own, there’s a lot to be said for feeling some camaraderie from time to time. Because although writing is not lonely, sometimes living the life of a writer is. At least in a creative sense. Humans are social animals (even writers…) I promise you, connecting with other writers will make the world of difference to your writing attitude. That can only be a good thing for your writing.

So thank you Evadne for making the effort to connect with me. I hope to return the favour the next time I’m down Toronto way. I encourage everyone out there to reach out to other writers as well, either in person if possible, or via email or phone or even replying to a blog post (hint, hint).

BTW, there haven’t been updates lately because, well, there’s been nothing to update. I do have some time slotted for tomorrow night to get some work in on the novel, so I’m happy for that.

Until then,


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6 Responses to I Don’t Care What They Say, Writing Isn’t Lonely – Day 279

  1. Hi Graham:
    I, too, enjoyed a chance to talk in person and have to credit Terry Fallis for prompting me to make contact. When I mentioned to him that I was going to Thunder Bay, he remembered that’s where you were and suggested I might enjoy meeeting you. How right he was! Thanks again for the chat (and this lovely blog posting).
    Evadne Macedo’s most recent blog post: Broadening my portfolio to include non-fiction writing and mixed media-acrylic art projects

    • Graham Strong says:

      Yes, we’ll certainly have to do it again! Do they have anywhere good to meet in Toronto? (lol)


  2. Terry Fallis says:

    I’m glad that you two were able to get together. I had a feeling you would hit it off. Hope to see you both sometime soon…

    • Graham Strong says:

      Yes, thanks Terry for the idea. We’ll have to give you the heads up when I’m down there next — it would be great to connect!


  3. Tara Benwell says:

    How wonderful! One day I truly hope to meet both of you to chat about writing, parenting and the juggling act we all share. Loved your pigeonhole posts too. Great idea about thinking about YMAL. I love that you called my novel Toews-ish! I had an agent tell me that when I was first shopping it around. I read A Complicated Kindness after she said that and I loved it! Actually, I found out later when I got an agent that we had the same agent. I wonder if she is still with that agency. Anyway, let me know next time you’re heading to TO so I can creep out of my cave.

    • Graham Strong says:

      Hi Tara,

      Yes, A Complicated Kindness was exactly the one I was thinking of. Definitely a YMAL!

      Would love to connect with you too — we’ll have to book a small conference hall to have this coffee for all of us. But how fun would that be?

      Congrats again on your book — you should be very proud!


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